Category: Marriage

Women talk!

I can’t remember if I read it somewhere or if someone told me that apparently women use about 20,000 words a day and men use 7,000 and that woman from some cultures, for example Italian ladies, use even more.  I have to admit that I found it believable but was guilty of stereotyping.  However, upon doing further research I’ve learned that this has been discredited and that men and women tend to talk about the same amount and it depends on other variables such as the amount of time they spend in the company of others.  This is the bit that I found interesting.

I tend to spend a large part of my day on my own.  Don’t feel sorry for me, I like my own company.  In the morning I have about 45 minutes with my husband and daughter before she goes to nursery and he goes into the city for work.    Then the rest of the morning is spent on the computer, working and gassing until I head out to work.  I’m an independent IT consultant in education.  On average I drive between 2-3 hours with an hour and a half of training in between.  This is really my only human contact during the day until my husband and daughter return.

So is this why I tweet so much? After some careful calculations we worked out that I tweet about 3000 words a day. Is it a chance to get my daily quota of words out?  Is this why my friends think I’m a foghorn when I see them?  Is this why I pounce on my husband when he comes in from work and natter his ear off?

We are family!

My mum comes from a family of nine.  I have 22 cousins on one side and we’ve lost count of how many great-grandchildren.  However, the oldest great-grandchild is 19 and the youngest is 3 months.  Like most families we only ever get together at weddings and funerals but this summer we had our first family reunion ever and it was brilliant.

Seven out of the nine families were represented.  It as held at my aunt’s rather large house in Aldergrove, BC, Canada which is just outside of Vancouver.  They opted to keep it fairly simple and we had a BBQ, each adult threw in a tenner.  One of my aunts had the genius idea of each family wearing a different colour shirt.   This was a godsend as you could work out who belonged to whom and check out the apple tree my aunt and cousin did!

My family, as you have guessed, are slightly mad so there were loads of laughs.  At one point they used a rope and tied one of my aunts into the port-a-potty!  Everyone enjoyed it so much they are threatening to do it again next year.

A big thank you to my Auntie Mary, Cindy and Marg for all of their hard work.

Sex Survey

I was absolutely stunned watching the #sexedshow last night when they said that 45-54 year olds are most likely to have had sex with more than 50 partners!  Hell, I feel like a nun!

This has led me to want to carry out my own scientific survey…..as I’m 39 I would like to start it here.  If you’re 39+ how many sexual partners have you had?  Totally anonymity guaranteed.  Not sure what I hope to find????

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This is not Bible Bashing!

I’ve been to church more this weekend than I have in the last 10 years.  I attended a mate’s funeral on Friday in a Catholic church and today I attended a Christening in a C of E Church.  As it was a ‘young persons’ funeral on Friday the place was full of young people.

However, when I attended the Christening today and it was a normal mass, I noticed that the majority (over 70%) of the parishioners were well into their 80s.  It made me wonder about the longevity of the Church.

It was a very progressive Church with a female Priest, a children’s club and we received a very warm welcome, but I couldn’t help feeling that it was not with the times.  I couldn’t sing along with the hymns if I tried, not because I’m tone deaf but I couldn’t work out the tune.  It was far too long; I was physically in pain by the end of it and the reading from Matthew 5:27-30, made my jaw hit the floor.

28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to desire her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away! It is better to lose one of your members than to have your whole body thrown into hell. 30 If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away! It is better to lose one of your members than to have your whole body go into hell.

And this was the corker???

32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

The Priest did address that God’s word is written in black and white and was not written in modern times.  Unfortunately, she wasn’t able to explain how this would fit into life today, however, she did emphasize that we should focus on repenting.

So, with one in two marriages in the UK ending in divorce have they not just turned their back on a large percentage of the population?  People divorce for many reasons, and this does not mean that they’re bad people.  My mother is a divorcee but she strongly believes in the 10 commandments.

I think the Church has a lot to offer people, but if it is unable to evolve and reflect modern times I can’t help thinking that it will disappear.

So what do you think?