About ten years ago a friend of mine said to me that every time she wanted her partner of 20+ years to do something, she always had to let him ‘think’ it was his idea. I used to think life was too short for such games and manipulation, but after being married for nearly 4 years I realise what a wise woman she was.
I don’t know what it is but every time I suggest something to hubby (purchases, DIY, Holidays, Finances, Take-away, etc) he always has the knee jerk reaction and always poo-poos my ideas no matter what it is. So, I’m slowly working out how to get what I want. So, now instead of saying ‘I would like to paint the kitchen’, I say ‘what do you think about painting the kitchen’.
Last summer I wanted to buy Madame a Wendy House, so I ordered him without telling him. Unfortunately, the stupid company emailed him the confirmation. He went bonkers so I had to cancel the order. So, I had to stop and rethink my strategy and I’m happy to report that she did receive her Wendy house and he spent Christmas Eve putting it together in the dark! :-)
It’s going to take me a bit to become proficient at it but I’m getting better at planting little seeds and letting him run with it. I don’t need my ego stroked and honestly, I quite enjoy being secretly smug! I bet you a fiver he takes credit for Madame’s Birthday Present. Bless him!