Going the Distance

I’ve only been married for 4 years.  I know I moan a lot about my hubby on Twitter but honestly we’re happily married, even though I do get the urge to stab him occasionally!  A few people have got the wrong idea and have tried it ‘on’ but that’s a whole different post.

We’ve had a very difficult year, some of which I’m willing to share and some I’m not.  Many of you know that my in-laws passed away within 18 hours of each other in June.  Interestingly, and without sounding soppy, it did bring us closer together, even though the stress of his father being terminally ill and relocating his mother did result in a few flare ups to be honest.

My in-laws had been together for 63 years and in a way it was romantic that they went together and his mother would not have coped very well on her own.  They’ve both been cremated and their ashes will be spread together in Belfast next spring.  The registrar said it was the first time she had ever put two family members next to each other on the death register.  They’ll always be together now.

One thing I wished I would’ve asked them was what was the secret to a successful marriage?  Statistically, one in two marriages ends in divorce and I don’t want to be one of those statistics.

I was contacted by Diffusion Media and asked to promote a new series, which follows recently married Mike and Alanna on a motorcycle and sidecar, as they search for the secret to a long lasting relationship. The first part of their quest takes them across states and countries, meeting with everyone from Eskimos to Nobel Peace Prizewinners! And now they’re coming to the UK to discover just what it is that makes British couples special when it comes to making love last.

I did not receive anything in return for this post; I just think it looks brilliant.  I love travel programmes, adventure and would love to know the secret to a lasting relationship.  I hope it’s as good as it looks.  What do you think?

Author: mediocremum

A slightly older mum of one, who drinks far too much red wine and has an unhealthy obsession with her slow cooker. During the day she's an ICT Trainer, Social Media/Online Marketing consultant and does a bit of public speaking. Full Profile on Google+

3 thoughts on “Going the Distance”

  1. If something is wrong have the confidence to say so…and never, ever walk away without resolving the issue…don’t put up with stuff because you’re frightened it will upset your partner, as they will be upset that you haven’t been able to tell them

  2. My parents have been married 30 years next months and it really is a happy marriage , my mum always told me the secret to her marriage was that her and my dad like each other . The enjoy spending time together , they have a friendship and a realinship . I always thought this made perfect sense and like to think dh and i are similar

  3. My hubby and I have been together for 15 yrs. and married for 3. We did everything backwards; moved in, had kids bought a house and then got married. We’ve been through many ups and downs’ financial, family, deaths, etc. I couldn’t imagine sharing it with anyone else. He is definitely my best friend. We actually like hanging out with each other! Life isn’t always easy, but we stick together. I think people give up on their relationships too easily. When the going gets tough, they jump ship. Life isn’t always going to be easy.

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